STABLISHING: Step 4
Designing a Space in Which You Can Bloom… again
“You must have a room and a certain hour... a place where you can simply experience and bring forth what you are and what you might be.” ~ Joseph Campbell
Any moving company can pack your stuff and leave the boxes in a new space. But what about the actual mental, emotional, and social stress of moving in and feeling at home?
We pay more attention to how we transplant a bush than how we transplant a person! We actually think about protecting the fragile roots, checking for compatibility with soil and rain, sun and shade, making sure it is surrounded by plants that will be conducive for its continued blossoming. Why don’t we use the same diligence for humans? Research tells us that it takes about five years for most people to feel settled in a new space, and frankly, many of us don't have that kind of time. Taking a little more time up front with intentional design can ease the transition enormously.
The animals understand the fundamental importance of place by spending enormous amounts of time and energy securing their well-being: the building of nests and burrows; hiding places and nooks for safety and sleep; lookouts and perches for surveying the landscape; access to food and water; respectful distances between other family groups of their species; and the best sunny spots for naps and play and soaking up the glorious feeling of being alive! Animals are naturals at establishing home base. We should follow their example in caring for ourselves.
“To be rooted is perhaps the most important and least recognized need of the human soul.” ~ Simone Weil
The spaces we live in matter to how well we flourish: Their size, shape and configuration; the colors; the placement and size of windows and doors; the location and type of lighting; the arrangement of furniture; the belongings we choose to have about us; the presence of plants; the spaces for each activity; the place for privacy; the space for receiving others into our lives. When attention is paid to each aspect of our environment we will be the happier and healthier for it.
I am one of those types of people for whom the design of interior space is critically important. Two years of graduate work at the Harrington Institute of Design in Chicago gave me an excellent foundation for the principles of good design, but the actual experience engaging with fabrics and furniture and seeing the results in people’s lives has been the best training for this stage on the path of Graceful Aging.
Whether you are reconfiguring your existing dwelling to be more suitable for your senior years, or you are moving to a new home, I can help you create the environment that will be best suited for who you intend to be in the years ahead.
I have researched multiple ways that you can speed up the process of feeling at home in your new living space through soulful personalizing of interior design, as well as feeling established in your new community by creating relationships with the right people, places, activities and organizations.
A personal plan and some life coaching complete this stage of ESTABLISHING your roots for flourishing in your new home.